“You haven’t had a bloke in a while, what’s going on Z?”
What’s going on indeed?!
2013 hasn’t been a particularly fruitful year so far for me, dating-wise. Since the beginning of the year, I’ve had a handful of rubbish dates (The Silver Fox Guy, The Dinner Date, The Essex Guy, the Nervous Guy, The Traveller Guy and the Psychiatrist Guy). A couple of near misses (The Glasses Guy and The Superman Guy), and one semi decent date that I didn’t hear from (The Tall Guy).
So, with three months left of the year, what now?
After forgetting to cancel my online dating membership, annoyingly I was charged for another month, so now I have three weeks to line up at least a couple of dates to make up for the £45.00 I’ve unwittingly paid. I have one guy who I’m chatting to that I plan to meet next week and another one I’ve just begun talking to, so let’s see.
I asked my friend T so set me up with someone a few months back. She knows SO many people, having lived in London for seven years and being even more outgoing than me.
The first person she suggested was a really funny guy I met on a picnic we all went on, apparently he told her he thought I was hot and asked whether I was single . I ummmed and aaaah’d over him. He seemed to have an awesome personality but was bald and a little chubby, By the time I decided to give him a shot, it was too late.
He now has a girlfriend (who is STUNNING) and having met him at T’s birthday on Sunday, he’s lost weight and is still pretty hilarious. Damn my stupid indecisiveness! The same thing happened when I dithered over a flat, by the time I decided I wanted it, it was too late, it had been snapped up. Perhaps it’s the fact I now can’t have him that’s made him even more attractive to me despite his physical appearance.
The next person T suggested had coincidentally stalked me on Facebook earlier this year (we have a mutual friend), he tried to add me and private messaged me asking me out. I thought this was creepy so I blanked him. A few weeks later, our mutual friend started a Whatsapp group to introduce us, it all became a bit awkward so I exited the group.
Anyway, he was there on Sunday too, again, not a looker (damn T and her weird looking single male friends!), not on par with the bald guy, but still humourous. Maybe I could go on a date with him before he gets snapped up too? I did some probing when T told me he broke up with his ex because she wanted to settle down and he didn’t…. What?!
I’ve told you my 5-year plan includes marriage and at least one baby and you’re trying to set me up with a guy with commitment issues (or perhaps he’s just immature, at 28, he’s four years younger than me). Either way, this is a huge red flag and I’m not sure I want to be part of this vicious circle again.
So, I’m ditching the plan of getting T to help me out (in fact, I’m pretty certain she’s trying to keep me single), instead, I’ll see through this online dating until the end of the month then line up some speed dating and singles events. If only arranged marriages existed… life would be SO much easier….